We all are looking for ways to transform our life, make it better and ways to be happier. There is never one answer and every piece of advice is a stepping stone to a more self aware life. Today I am giving you 10 hidden secrets to transform your life.
10 Hidden Secrets to Transform Your Life
1. Get to know your parents history.
Learn what your parents are all about. What they went through as children, teenagers, young adults. Find out the challenges they faced as a new parent. One day it will be too late, and you will wish you would have asked. It also shows you why they did what they did, and why you are the way you are.
2. Understand the real meaning of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a powerful word, but most people think that you forgive for the other person. “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” -Oprah One of my favorite quotes. You do not forgive for the other person. You forgive and release so you are not harboring negative energy in your life, because that negative energy will effect every part of your life.
3. Ask a child what they would do.
Take the issue you are going through and simplify it. If you are struggling to pay bills ask a child “If you had very little money and needed to buy something, what would you do?” One of two things will happen they will help you look at the situation in a simple way that you hadn’t seen it before or they will respond with a silly answer that will make you laugh. The simplicity of a child is sometimes all it takes to transform your life.
4. Go for a walk outdoors.
You hear this one a lot. I have heard this over and over and I am guilty of not always taking my own advice, but one thing a good nature walk will do is get you more connected. You become more spiritually connected with the earth as a whole when you take in all of life’s natural beauty around you.
5. Replace the word regret with “life lesson.”
This is a blog post all in its own. In order to transform your life you must remove the negativity. It must be a God given gift because I have never looked at any thing in my life as a regret. I have always understood that everything happens for a reason (view my post about it by clicking here) I know that had that one thing had not happened I would not be exactly where I am today. An example? Had I not answered a Skype message from my girlfriend I never would have met my husband and I would not have my son. So that really bad relationship? Don’t regret it. Think of it as a life lesson because without that relationship all of the really good things wouldn’t be like they are without it.
6. Look deeper into why things are happening.
Just when you think you have everything figured out, life goes and switches it all around. Look at what you think is wrong and ask yourself why you feel that emotion towards that situation. When you find out the “why” then ask yourself, “what event in my life caused this emotion to occur?” One of the things I asked my husband to do when we first got married is to always ask what the deeper meaning is when I am upset. I think I’m upset about one thing but a half hour later I realize it has nothing to do with that, but with a little time I resolve the problem.
7. Give up the idea of being a superhero.
We all want to be super parents/significant others/friends/employees/siblings. The list goes on and on and on. Do you really think you are capable of giving everything to everyone while ignoring yourself? No. By wearing yourself out you actually are a less effective parent/significant other/friend/employee/sibling. If you accept that we make mistakes and refer back to # 5 you will be in pretty good shape. Trust me, everyone you love will forgive you if your holiday wrapping isn’t perfect.
8. Organize your life.
I am so much more calm and happier when I am organized. After my son was born my mother-in-law told me she was afraid to take something out of the drawer because she didn’t want to mess it up. I have binders, folders, note pads, lists everything in a certain spot so I don’t have to search high and low for 1 simple thing. My home management binder is my brain, I will do a tutorial eventually.
9. Learn to love yourself.
This is a big one and it goes hand in hand with # 2. One of the biggest lessons in learning to love yourself is learning to forgive yourself for all of the things you think you may have done wrong. I believe everybody is on earth to master this very exact lesson. If you held yourself at the same standard that you did everybody else loving yourself wouldn’t be as difficult.
10. Don’t be afraid to say “no.”
Whenever I ask a question I know that there is a 50/50 chance on my answer being yes or no. If you are being asked for your opinion or you are being asked if you want to do something, no is a perfectly acceptable answer. If you are being asked you are being given a choice and that means you have the right to say no. We like to give, give, give, but we often forget to give to ourselves. Sometimes saying no is what we need for peace of mind.
There you have it, 10 ways to transform your life. What do you think? Is there anything you can improve on in your life? Is there anything you would like to see a blog post on specifically? Comment below and share with me how you feel about these 10 hidden secrets to transform your life.